It's been raining all day today. It's so appropriate it's almost cliche.
I first met Spike about three years ago.
He went on a trip with our class as a sponser, and we had a blast. He was funny, a big kid really, with a huge, goofy grin all the time. We all adored him. We went to the Rainforest Cafe and he bought a second "Volcano" for the guys, just so we could record them eating it as fast as they could. He went on all the amusement park rides, played all the games, enjoyed all the same things we did.
We just loved him.
And since then he's still been a part of our school. He goes to games, goofs off with the guys, makes sure to say hi to the girls as well. I ran into him at Walmart, and he had to stop by just to see how I was doing. And I'm not even one of the ones he's really close to.
He has four kids, three sons, the youngest of whom is eight, and a daughter, and a wife in her late thirties. Yesterday was the youngest son's first baseball game, in three days the second youngest is having his birthday.
Yesterday afternoon he was on his motorcycle, going a bit too fast, and he came around a blind corner. He hit a mid-sized pickup head on. He was gone before the emergency response teams even arrived, presumably he died instantaneously.
Now he'll never again come by the school and laugh and joke around with us. He'll never sponser another trip. He'll never be cheering on another game.
He'll never see his sons join varsity basketball. He'll never see any of his kids graduate high school. He'll never walk his daughter down the aisle.
It's been such a shock to the entire school. Today we had a chapel devoted to dealing with our grief, most of us just cried the whole time our youth pastor talked. All of his kids came to school, I guess they just couldn't stay in that house anymore. His daughter, a very good friend of mine, is trying to stay strong, because that's what she does, and she was more together than most of us were.
A lot of us, male and female, bawled at some point. I didn't outright sob, but I sure did cry. Some seem kind of angry, several a little numb (myself included) and a few didn't know him well enough and so they just sort of drift uncomfortably among their grieving friends. Today was by far the hardest school day of my life. Not even when my own great-grandparents or great-uncle died did I feel so affected, and yet at the same time I didn't really feel anything, just sort of in shock still I guess.
I just want to remember him though, because Spike was just such a cool guy.
He's the kind of man who never really grew up, and that was awesome. You could talk to him, and he never looked down on us for our age. He had just as much fun as we did, he made it a point to hang out with the guys. Just two days ago they all tackled him for teasing them about their new exercise regimen.
Whenever Spike went as a chaperone on a school trip, he was they one you wanted to be with. He would make sure everyone had fun, and he would join in with gusto. He was just a cool guy. And like I said, we all loved him. We still do.
I believe God will bring something good out of this, and I believe that He's more sorrowful than any of us, as hard as it may seem. I'm leaning on my faith, and I know others at the school are as well, and we're leaning on each other. Right now, I believe Spike is asleep, and when Jesus comes again in the clouds of glory, he'll be lifted up into the air, and we'll all go up too, and then we're all going to tackle-hug him! Of course, we'll make sure his family gets to him first.
So here's to Spike, friend, husband, and, most importantly, father.
We love him, we miss him, and we'll see him again soon.